People can figure out a lot about who you are and what you are thinking and feeling even if you don’t say a word.
How does everyone else do it? By watching what you do with your body.
The messages you send with your body movements and facial expressions are called “body language.”
Some experts on body language say that we only use our words to say about 7% of what we want to say to other people. The rest of what we say is shown by the way we move, speak, and look at each other.
Why does Body Language matter?
Most people don’t know the secrets behind body language. By understanding some simple tips, you can use body language to your advantage in any situation.
All of your life, your posture, movements, and facial expressions have been sending messages to other people.
When you were a baby and couldn’t talk yet, people would look at your face, watch your movements, and listen to your cries and gurgles to try to figure out how you were feeling and what you were trying to say.
And you’ve been reacting to people’s body language, voice tone, and facial expressions your whole life, even if you weren’t aware of it at the time.
What kind of messages are you sending to other people with the way you move? Does the way you move make people want to talk to you? Or do you unconsciously tell them not to come near you?
Think for a moment about how you usually stand or sit around other people. What do you have your hands doing? Where do you have your eyes pointed?
Does your face show interest in the people you’re with, or does it stay tight and stone-like?
The Way of Sitting and Standing
Do you often cross your arms across your chest when you’re sitting or standing? If this is how you usually stand or sit, what do you think other people think when they see you like this? Did you know that most people will subconsciously think that you don’t want anyone to talk to you if your arms are crossed in front of your chest? Only the bravest people are likely to come forward when you stand like this.
People will probably think you are very sad or have no self-confidence if you stand awkwardly, with your chest slouched forwards, shoulders sagging, and eyes looking away from everyone else. They might be afraid of how awkward it will be to talk to you.
When you stand awkwardly, you don’t show that you are sure of yourself or that you care about the people around you. Instead, it seems like you’re trying to hide.
No matter how badly you want someone to come over and be your friend, not many people will try to talk to you if your body language shows that you are uncomfortable or not interested in them.
If some body language signals scare people away, are there any that make people want to come up and talk to you? Yes, if your body language is open and friendly, people will be much more likely to approach you.
Whether you are sitting or standing, you should try to keep your back straight and your shoulders back, but still, be calm. If your shoulders or chest are sagging, stand up straight.
Interpretation of way of breathing
Pay attention to the way you breathe. Does it feel smooth when you take a breath in and out? Or does it move in stops and starts?
If you find yourself holding your breath or breathing in short, jerky bursts, this could signify anxiety. When you breathe shallowly, you have to take more breaths, making you look more nervous. Tell all the muscles in your body to calm down. Use your stomach to help you take smooth, deep breaths. Let both the top and bottom of your lungs fill with air.
Meaning of Crossing Arms
What do you have your hands doing? If you get nervous around other people, you might feel like whatever you do with your hands is wrong. People probably cross their arms in front of their chests at least sometimes, because they don’t know where else to put them.
Crossing your arms in front of your chest is rude unless you don’t want anyone to come near you. This is the message that this action sends.
Keep your arms at your sides or put one hand in your pocket to look friendly and open. If you want to hold something in one hand, don’t put your hand in front of you. Instead, put it on your side. Holding your arm in front of your body can signify that you want to protect yourself from other people.
Stay aware of your surroundings and the people around you, and pay attention to them. If you stop paying attention to what is going on around you, you will start to think and feel too much about what is wrong with you. This can quickly make you feel so worried that it’s hard to sleep.
What should you do with your face if you want people to come up to you?
Most of the time, a soft, friendly smile should do the trick. When you smile too much and it never gets soft, it can look forced and nervous. People will think that talking to you will be fun if you have a nice smile and a twinkle in your eyes.